No more Lazy Ass Husband Living Alone

So the Lazy Ass Husband Living Alone is no more. Now just a Lazy Ass Living Alone. It was not an easy conclusion to reach, but in the end the adult life and it's decisions had to prevail.

The decision was a mutual one. We had both been having the same thoughts. We have changed. We are moving in different directions with our lives, and it had become more natural to be apart than together. It's not something that is easy to admit to oneself, but better to reach the conclusion while still friends instead of delaying it until pulling in each direction would lead to unhappiness, fighting and resentment.

I was shown a quote yesterday that, while being a very overused cliche, still holds a lot of truth for how I feel.

"Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened"

Well, crying because it is over is inevitable. Sorrow is a part of any split. When coming to the realisation that the one who has more or less defined your life for the last 8+ years is no longer the same integrated part of it, there will be pain. Trying to say something else would just be lying to oneself, and I am not going to do that. Pain is not fun, but it's a necessary part of moving life foward. But the most important part of this cliche are the last words.

I want to thank my wife for letting me grow, develop, showing me who I can be and for being a huge part in making me who I am today. I will keep all those memories and they will always be cherished. I am smiling because it happened. I wouldn't even want to think about how life would have been without it.

Thank you.

Luckily it is not goodbye. Important people should not be removed from ones life if it can be avoided. And good friends is something you can never have too many of.

Yep, it appears to be screwed

Been going over every option I can think of, and it appears that Christmas vacation this year is pretty much screwed. Not exactly something that I'm getting in a cheerful mood thinking about, but not something I can do anything about either. And I wouldn't have changed the priorities leading to it knowing the outcome.

Looks like it's just something I'm going to have to deal with, that I'll be working over the Christmas holidays, in Ljusdal. Not looking forward to it, but can't have everything the way I want it either.

Putting on my thinking cap to see if there's any way to get the Christmas plans back on track.

but we'll see. Right now, it looks like Swedish Christmas unless I get a lottery prize. Which would mean I'd have to play the lottery. Which I don't do :P

Peace out.

Christmas Wishlist Time

Yeah, it's time for the Christmas wishlist. Keeping up with tradition, I will of course fill my list with attainable and realistic requests.

• $175,000 in unmarked and non-sequential serial number bills, delivered at 3 am on Christmas morning outside the train station in Ljusdal. (I'll never give up on this one. NEVER! One day it will happen. Will have to change the drop-off point though.)
• New computer.
• Return flight Stockholm <-> Rapid City for mid December to mid January.
• Quicker processing time at USCIS.
• Greencard for USA, executive position in a Fortune 500 company and a huge bonus if I get fired for doing a shitty job (any bonus in excess of $75,000,000 can be tolerated)
• A renovated apartment (this one is in need of some work soon)
• A Dogo Argentino (should also include lifting the breed bans in Norway so it can come on visits)
• Something.

And that's yet another event where nobody can say I didn't have any requests.

Who knows, this year I might even put on a Santa suit.

 

Then again, probably not.

Peace out.