Yes, I do care. No, I don't feel a need to splatter it everywhere

The use of "you" in this entry is in no way aimed at any one specific person. I am simply writing out my thoughts, which is why I have a blog.

As most people know, there were two horrible incidents in Norway on Friday July 22nd. Judging from some people's reactions, unless you join 800 Facebook groups, plaster a Norwegian flag on your picture and post links to every old and overused poem and song in the world, you don't care. You know. If that is how you feel, please accept my heartfelt and sincere message: Fuck you! Who are you to decide how I feel and how I deal with those feelings?

No, I don't join Facebook groups indescriminately just because the name suggests that I don't care if I don't join. No, I don't join a ton of events just because something happened. No, I haven't lit any candles. No, I didn't turn off my lights. No, I didn't stop my world. If you are among those who feel all of the above is the right thing to do, good for you. I support you and your right to do all that you want. All I expect in return is that you support my right to do the same.

My way to deal with horrible things has been involuntary "trained" over years with volunteer and some actual work exposing me to the darkest sides of human behavior. I have seen evil in pictures, videos and words. I have seen things I hope no one will ever have to see, and that I will never see again (one day I will stop dreaming of it). I react in my own way to horrible events. The way I react might not suit you, but I actually demand that you respect what is my personal way to deal with things.

I don't talk to everyone about how I feel on horrible incidents. First I try to process the information. Then I can talk about it. And when I do talk about it, one of my main ways to deal with the horrors of human behavior is humor. Yes, I have a very dark sense of humor. It is my way of dealing with things. So when I do talk, I talk to people I know can deal with it. That means I can talk to some select few people I know won't judge me. I know they will understand that jokes aren't disrespect, but a way to process and get thoughts out of my brain.

So when you don't see me join the bandwagon of Facebook groups, status updates every 5 minutes or joining a ton of events. Or even when you notice that I don't discuss something with you. It's not because I don't care. It's because I don't need yet another judgmental person telling me I'm cold, heartless, without feeling and a dick.

I did hold a minute of silence today. To me, that was a good show of respect for the victims. I will also be on a memorial event on Thursday. I can go there without being expected to pray and sing psalms, something that would be very wrong for me as an atheist to do. It would be disrespectful to the faith of billions of people.

What I have written here might be news to you. I know it is to some, even some of those close to me. But these are my thoughts, and it was my choice when to share them.

So next time you come across someone who appears to you as cold, emotionless and unsympathetic, take a minute and think. Most likely, the person just has a different way of dealing with things than you do. It doesn't give you any moral highground or right to judge. You should show what you preach; Respect.

Peace out.

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Everything, nothing, something in between

You know, this is my space to write about nothing. When I have no thoughts, this is where I can write about it. And lately, no thoughts have been the order of the day. I'm drained. Empty. Lack motivation. Don't really find anything to be very interesting. Not sure what it is, but it feels like I need a change.

And something is about to change. Don't know what, when or where, but my gut feeling is that something is about to change. Will be fun to be along for the ride when it happens no matter what it is. Some excitement never hurt anyone I think. Well, apart from maybe a few base jumpers and other extreme sports competitors. But that's not really me.

So yeah. This was the pointless update of the day. I have a gut feeling. Exciting, wasn't it?

Peace out.